LOVE Vs LUST, what you should know in every relationship

LOVE Vs LUST

Especially in the early stages of a relationship, it can be difficult to tell the difference between love and lust. Both are associated with physical attraction and an intoxicating rush of feel-good chemicals, coupled with an often overwhelming desire to be closer to another person, but only one is long-lasting; love.










So, while LUST fade so easily and short-lived, LOVE endures


While LUST seeks satisfaction, LOVE seeks to Satisfy.

Love is something that is cultivated between two people and grows over time, through getting to know him or her and experiencing life’s many ups and downs together. It involves commitment, time, mutual trust, and acceptance.

Lust, on the other hand, has to do with the sex-driven sensations that draw people toward one another initially and is fueled primarily by the urge to procreate. Characterized by sex hormones and idealistic infatuation, lust blurs our ability to see a person for who he or she truly is and consequently, it may or may not lead to a long-term relationship.







Let me be more practical, take for instance; Amaka is in a committed relationship with Jeremiah and her sexual desire for him is waning. She loves and cares for him, but she finds herself feeling restless and dissatisfied with their physical relationship. When she meets Charles, she experiences instant feelings of attraction and longing. The chemical messengers in her brain start sending signals to pursue this new man, even though she does not know anything about him other than how his presence makes her feel physically. Instead of working to improve intimacy with her current partner, she is overcome by lust for someone new. This is LUST, not Love.

Some have argued that in an ideal intimate relationship scenario, there should be a balanced combination of love and lust. After all, lusting after someone is typically an important early phase of a long-term partnership, and reigniting that initial spark is a practice worth cultivating for committed couples.

Let's have a look at biblical perspective and definition of what Love is:

1 Corinthians 13:4-13

4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

5. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

The word of God, being far above human reasoning, rationalization and emotions should form the basic for our belief system in every matter. The scripture has simply defined what TRUE LOVE represent and I would like us to dwell completely in what the scripture has provided.

So, whenever you see an act teemed love, going contrary to the description of the Bible, then it's no longer Love.







Also, I wish to add here that 'Love is an Act'

Meanwhile:

It's not something that develops overnight, but cautiously cultivated and grows.

In the way God wired the human system, a man's brain interprets RESPECT as love while a woman's brain interprets care/gifts/kind words as Love. This is no doubt why the scripture encourages the man loves his wife and the woman obey (respects) her husband. The care or respect you show, the greater your love.